Can philanderers commit?

A HOT recent topic was the marriage of Ranbir Kapoor and Alia Bhatt. The couple reportedly started dating after they met on the sets of Brahmastra in 2017 and have been seemingly solid ever since.

But 39-year-old Ranbir is known for reportedly having a notorious reputation of being a serial philanderer, right back to the time when he was dating Deepika Padukone and Katrina Kaif. It has led some to question if 29-year-old Alia did the right thing by settling down with someone with such a notorious past. This has subsequently brought up the question of can a cheater reform their ways and can a woman fully trust someone who has been carrying that sort of baggage. Is a cheater always a cheater?

If a woman is aware about the past of someone, as Alia likely was, then she is taking on the challenge of changing someone and believing they can really change. It seems that Alia has done a good job, with the pair appearing very much in love and committed to one another. I hope this continues and Ranbir proves the world wrong, by staying faithful throughout their marriage.

To his credit, Ranbir hasn’t had any scandalous cheating stories or rumours since he started dating Alia, but can a leopard change his spots? Is Alia being naïve thinking Ranbir can be reformed? Unless you are super secure in yourself, which I suspect Alia is, there is always going to be that part of you that will possibly question where your partner is or who they are with. The thing is, you have to take your partner’s word for it and believe their actions.

On the flipside, is it fair to tarnish someone’s bright future with dark deeds they may have done in the past and do people deserve a second (or in Ranbir’s case a third) chance to settle down?

Things aren’t always as they seem. Some women go through relationships knowing their partner’s cheat. I myself encountered married men on dating sites, who said their wives turned a blind eye or forgave them because they were not strong enough to walk away. If Ranbir cheats, I am 100 per cent sure Alia would be strong enough to walk away, Gangubai style, fearing no one.

Interestingly, Ranveer Singh reportedly had a reputation for being a notorious ladies’ man before he settled down with Deepika Padukone, but she seems to have turned him into a happily married man, very much in love. Can Alia do the same with Ranbir, only time will tell.

I will leave you with a quote from Melissa Foster: “Everyone has a past. I have mine, you have yours, and we have ours. No matter what it takes, I will prove to you that our past, no matter how hurtful, didn’t ruin the future we could have

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